– Popular photographer Ben Kiruthi shared how he and his wife Gathoni struggled with their marital issues in silence because they were afraid of being judged
– The Christian couple did not want to be seen as weak and for a long time pretended to be the “perfect couple”
– Kiruthi urged people to speak up and extend grace since everyone has a battle they are dealing with
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Popular photographer Ben Kiruthi has revealed that he had for a long time kept quiet even when his marriage was struggling because he and his wife were afraid of being judged.
The Christian couple has been a role model to various lovers within their circle, and Kiruthi said, each time he heard people say they have a problem, they would be told to pray.
Kiruthi shared his story via his Kiruthi blog forum, and he gave a detailed picture of how his marriage was for a long time imprisoned by what others may think of him and his wife.
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”For so long, Gathoni and I were imprisoned by the imaginary prison of people’s opinions. Before we got married, every couple we met told us how great marriage was; they all looked so perfect with their matching outfits and well-oiled faces,” he said.
But, as soon as he and his wife tied the knot, they realised it was not as easy as people made it look.
”We could not walk around with sunken and sullen faces; we felt that we had to display perfection. And so we took on our roles with gusto and became the ‘perfect couple’.
We were imprisoned fam! And being a Christian couple was even worse. Everyone, we especially, believed that being a ‘good’ Christian was all that was needed to make a happy marriage. As a married couple you had to maintain perfection in the eyes of the society,” he further shared.
Kiruthi explained that it took so much from his marriage to break free from fearing what people may say about his marriage.
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He decided to speak up hoping others may also learn to give grace to people rather than expecting perfection from them.
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Here are some of the comments:
‘Trying to display “perfection” is the worst prison, always authentic.”
”Your willingness to be vulnerable in this area and your honesty to help others, very profound, God bless your family.”
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Prisca Aroko is a TUKO.co.ke Entertainment Editor with five years experience in both the local and international media industry. She holds a Diploma in Broadcast Journalism from the Kenya Institute of Mass Communication. She has worked at Family Media (Kenya), written for News Deeply, New York (USA) and done Africa news analysis on Arise News (Nigeria). Aroko also has a keen interest in Human Interest stories and is passionate about feature stories that highlight or empower women. She is also a voracious reader, speaks Chinese (Mandarin), loves cooking and sampling different meals and has a huge interest in fashion. Learn more about her on Twitter @Arokoprisca.
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